The Mom I Want to Be

The Transition From 2 to 3

 

What kind of preschool program is best in this year of change?

 

The independent nature of two-year-olds is captured in some of their favorite phrases: “Mine,” “No,” and “Me do it.” They are very busy people and assert themselves as a matter of course as they explore and figure things out for themselves. Among the many physical achievements of this transition year is learning to use the toilet. Two-year-olds are naturally curious and interested in other people. They can be very caring of one another one minute then become angry and aggressive soon afterwards. Twos tend to have very strong feelings and often don’t know how to express them. But they are fascinated with words, and as they approach three, they usually can use words to communicate their needs, express their feelings, and even comfort themselves.

 

More and more, two-year-olds are enrolled in organized care programs. We are concerned that many preschool programs designed for three- to five-year-olds offer two-year-olds the same program they offer the older children. This is inappropriate and not in the best interests of young children. Twos benefit from a program that respects their needs for individual play and flexible scheduling, that allows plenty of time for the routines of their lives — taking jackets on and off, using the bathroom, snacking, and resting. Two-year-olds are just beginning to be interested in playing with other children, but this interest does not include sharing toys or materials. Because they have short attention spans, they are generally unable to sit in groups for any length of time. As children turn three, they are much more ready for focused play in small groups where they learn to take turns, share, and listen to one another.