The Mom I Want to Be

 

Young children have many ways to communicate, including sounds, gestures, facial expressions, and body language, but once they begin to master language, they can more easily let parents and other caregivers know what they want or need, what they feel, and what matters to them. A good command of language appears to go hand-in-hand with the ability to think logically and creatively. All of the important adults in children’s lives, and especially parents, play an important role in helping young children develop verbal language skills and build a good foundation for later reading and writing.

 

 

Talking with Babies and Young Children
Babies love to be talked to. Exchanges of sounds, gestures, or expression not only lay the groundwork for conversation, they also help babies develop the sense of mutuality and give-and-take that underlies secure relationships. By listening to and watching children with real interest and responding in a way that continues the exchange, you let them know that they will be attended and responded to.

Once children begin talking, be sure to allow them time to formulate what they want to say. Waiting patiently for your child to formulate his thoughts or answer a question is one of the most important things you can do to encourage language growth. You can also ask open-ended questions that require more than a yes or no answer, including questions to which you don’t already know the answer.

When parents talk to babies, they often speak slowly and melodically, using a form of speech that experts refer to as “parentese.” This is exactly the kind of speech that is best suited to helping babies learn to talk. To engage your baby’s attention, it is helpful to be lively and to vary the tone and pitch of your voice. It is also helpful to speak slowly and distinctly, and to repeat words and phrases. However, don’t underestimate your baby’s grasp of what you are saying. Well before they can respond with words, babies and toddlers can understand a lot of what is said.

Look for opportunities to give children something real to talk about that interests them. Children’s attention can wander when they are expected to talk about something abstract or something they have never experienced. They are more likely to respond when the conversation is based on real, concrete, lived-through experiences. For example, asking children to discuss ways they might transport water over to a sandbox or flowerpot challenges their problem-solving abilities while keeping the subject both real and relevant to them. They can make the conversation even more real by trying out their ideas to see if they actually work. Encourage siblings or playmates to ask each other questions and to have conversations. In that way, children learn that talk can be fun, satisfying, and helpful in building relationships.

 

Bilingualism
In today’s world, speaking more than one language is a definite asset. At the same time, in order to get along in our society, children must be able to speak, read, and write English well. But speaking English doesn’t mean children have to give up speaking their first language. There is no finer way to honor children’s ethnic or cultural background than by welcoming and encouraging the use of their home language or dialect in other settings, including preschool.

Gaining a sense of belonging at school helps children become good learners. Even when teachers don’t speak your child’s language, you can help them to learn a few essential words or phrases, beginning with the correct pronunciation of your child’s name and your family’s names. Help teachers learn about your family’s culture and heritage. Share songs and stories in your native language as well as cultural customs.

 

Emergent Literacy
Gaining literacy-the ability to read and write with ease-is an essential part of language learning. To achieve literacy, children must first acquire many basic concepts and strategies, including an awareness of the sounds that make up language, an ability to rhyme syllables and words, and a familiarity with print materials. By playing language games with your children (asking them to make rhymes or to think of words that begin with the same sound), you can help them get ready to read.

One of the most important things you can do to foster children’s literacy skills is to read aloud to them every day and to encourage other caregivers and teachers to do the same. Chat about the story as you read together, bearing in mind that the talk surrounding the story is as important as the story. As children turn the pages, ask them to point to things that interest them. When they pretend to read, children are making progress toward reading.

Provide young children with plenty of opportunities to experiment with writing, including scribbling and drawing, but resist the impulse to pressure them to write correctly. You can also write down children’s own stories and help them dictate and decorate letters to other children or adults. You can also encourage kids to add written materials, such as signs, phone books, or menus, to their pretend play.

 

Things to Remember

 

  Pay attention to your baby during play, diapering and feeding. Use your voice, smile, eye contact and body language to let your baby know you are listening to her and responding to her cues.

  Encourage your children to talk about what they’re doing while they’re doing it or right after.

  Try to ask your children questions that encourage them to think about their reply and share ideas.

  Make mealtimes fun by encouraging your children to talk about what interests them, what happened at school that day and what they’d like to do the next day.

  Show your children that books are important to you by reading yourself and teaching them how to take good care of the books you have or borrow from friends or the library.

  If you suspect your child has a problem hearing or speaking, talk to her teacher or doctor to find out if she needs extra attention or treatment.

 

Things to Avoid

  Avoid answering your own questions when talking to your children. Instead, be patient and give them the time to come up with their own answers.

  Try not to dominate conversations taking place among children, except to encourage them to ask questions of each other that help keep the conversation going. Children learn a lot from each other this way.

 

Try This at Home

 

1. Think of an experience that your child has on a regular basis and how you can encourage him to talk about it; for example, playing with the neighborhood children, the walk or ride home from school, or buying groceries with a family member.

2. Try to set a time every day when you or a family member reads to your child. Just before bath or bedtime often works well. How can you make the most of this time?

3. The next time your children want to “play house,” give them a phone book, cookbook or calendar to use. During play, you can pretend to use these and help your children to understand their value in real life.

4. Ask your child to tell you a story and write down what she says. Ask her questions about what happens next and why something happened to encourage her to continue. After the story is written down, ask your child to draw a picture or pictures to illustrate the story.